What would happen if you both gave in to your desire to sleep?
These may be invaluable if part of the barriers to closeness you are experiencing relate to parenting problems.
Third, review together how you might like to reconnect.
Words of Affirmation – these are kind, affectionate, appreciative statements that recognize what your loved one means to you.
Phrases that respect and encourage each other are also important.
Might this be a short or medium term solution that could make you both feel better? It might help if you fill in a diary over a month recording all your activities to give you a broader picture of where changes could be made.